learn how to become your own greatest ally with internal family systems
Get cristal clear on what is IFS
Parts are not the problem, and Self is not the solution. IFS is an inner relational model of healing disconnected parts of ourselves. Our mission with IFS is to kindly and bravely develop cooperative and loving relationships between Self and parts, and between parts themselves.
Our inner system
It is made of parts and Self.
There are 2 categories of parts: protectors and exiles.
Managers protective parts act in a preventive way, whereas Firefighters protectors are reactive.
Exiles are the parts of us who suffered during difficult situations, often when we were very young.
When it happened, other parts had to become protectors. They exiled the suffering parts in order to preserve the inner system's balance.
Managers go on day by day assuring the inner system's protection, making sure that never again will the exile's suffering awaken.
But, despite the managers activity, sometimes exiles get reactivated. Then, the firefighters react immediately to prevent by any means the exiles's suffering being felt.
Self is not a part, it is our Essence, our Soul. Present in every one of us, never altered, Self is able to heal exiles and help protectors transform. Self is this benevolent inner Adult which can harmonize the system with its compassionate and calm presence.
The burdens of our parts
Our parts or sub personalities are part of us and have incredible value.
However, they carry burdens: these are the emotions and beliefs they developed when they went through difficult situations.
These burdens are the ones that can cause limiting or even severe behaviors from our parts, that impact our relationhips, our way of living, our projects and our health.
Our role is to help our parts release their burdens, some being personal, others being inherited by family members.
