Healing is feeling

In a society that over values the mind and under values or devalues feeling, we must remember that healing our parts and internal family systems cannot be achieved by the part of us that needs to understand, but by the Self, who has the capacity to connect and heal, in alliance with our protective parts. 

Because healing—that is, the transformation of our defense mechanisms and wounded parts—begins in the heart, we can easily understand why our many efforts to understand them haven't borne lasting fruit in our daily lives.

The desire for transformation is a call from the heart and soul, often manifesting as an awareness that continuing to function as we do is not the direction we aspire to for our lives. This can resemble one or more life episodes during which we seem overwhelmed by dissatisfaction, depression, anxiety, a lack of meaning, stress, or even anger.

In a world where, unto this day, the intellect alone is valued, understanding always more is an illusion in which we often fall prey, and we can spend decades trying to understand it.

Practicing heart opening and, from this space within us, undertaking the necessary inner healing, is what we are inspired with IFS.

Gently, respectfully, taking our time, without forcing or imposing anything, we can rediscover this luminous and benevolent inner path, which naturally knows how to transform.

This approach is the opposite of what we have learned: analyzing, filtering, and predicting the present moment based on our past experiences.

Thus, in order to change this relationship with ourselves, to clarify it, to purify it of its wounds and defensive reactions, to make it more expansive and gentle, practice is necessary.

This practice can be done in a group and solo. One on one sessions allow us to delve into the heart of necessary healing, while group and solo practice are primarily intended for practicing self-connection. It allows us to experience concretely, rather than through theory, the return to inner connection, to cultivate this loving relationship with ourselves, which is what enables us to have loving relationships with others and the world.