The importance of integration

Because new relationships take time

After an IFS session, one on one or in a group, you could get back to your daily life and its tasks, and forget about the parts you just met and helped transform. You go directly to the next item of your to do list , exclusively in external focus, far, so far from your inner space.

This is where the integration phase is paramount.

Your commitment to yourself doesn't end when the session is over. It goes on.

Internal changes - neuronal ones - that take place during each session, must be supported in your daily life.  Sincere and supportive new relationships that were formed need your loving presence each day in order to grow and thrive. You become your own inner gardener.

It can be getting in contact with your parts, checking in with them and see whether "everybody is ok", or offering your respectful and benevolent attention to the parts that most need it. These new inner connexions between parts who previously lived disconnected from one another and separated from Self, are going to be able to settle, along with trust continuing to grow, thanks to your daily presence.

It can take a minute or the time of your meditation. Time does not matter really. We are not into doing, but into being. It is your intention to continue offering your attention and your support that will flow your Self energy throughout your entire system.

This step becomes a new habit of self connexion, that will bring fruits in the long run: inner safety, peace, joy and inter connexion. When integration is skipped, your parts feel forgotten and have the tendency to go back to their previous state of fear, conflict or disconnection.